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Listening is a tough act to follow… Awareness comes from the soul…

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With hyper-vigilance comes listening from your soul…click for larger view…

Paying attention is the key to awareness… Deepak Chopra about listening…Deepak

“The execution of any task or project depends on someone paying attention to someone else. Success isn’t created in a vacuum. It emerges from the situation at hand.  The situation can be a crisis or a routine project, a management problem or a simple exchange of information. The more skilled you are at paying attention, the higher your chances of success, along with other benefits such as not wasting time and getting along with co-workers.”

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Listening is a great challenge for most of us.  We work to improve this sensory skill for a lifetime.   Some of us have extra sensory skills called hyper-vigilance or being on alert with intensity most of the time.  In my experience, this extraordinary listening capacity can be powerful and comes from your soul.  We are either born with this complementary skill of a high level of vigilance or it is caused by experiencing a traumatic event(s) in life, or both.  Hyper-vigilance can be a huge benefit to improve listening and awareness if managed effectively.  If not, being on alert constantly can be very tiring and annoying to others as well.

My own hyper-vigilance, caused by experiencing childhood and young adult trauma, has been a benefit for the most part in my life, especially on a professional level.  Being on alert for danger all the time at home with loved ones is not so beneficial.  I have a keen sense of awareness about hyper-vigilance at this stage in my life, including the roots of this behavior.  With increased awareness, a person gifted with a high level of vigilance can become a much better listener in positive ways both at work and in the comfort of your home.

For me, becoming a better listener with loved ones and close friends offers the most value in improving interpersonal communications.  Even if you are a typical listener with good to excellent awareness intensity, learning more about the extreme nature of hyper-vigilance can provide an extra edge by learning a mindful or soulful approach to listening.  What used to be considered a troublesome symptomatic condition of post-trauma stress (PTS) is now viewed as a heightened awareness advantage…with major benefits on a professional level and at home where it really counts…

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 1…  Click the highlighted text for my author page…

 

 

Vote Steve Sparks for Depoe Bay, Oregon City Council, Position 5… Read this important blog post!

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Steve Sparks, Author, Leadership Coach, US Navy Veteran & Children’s Advocate

 

Community Building  Click for more on my recent article, “How to Treat “Silo Disorder,” a Detriment to Community Growth and Vitality…  Quote from article…by Steve Sparks

“I was asked again yesterday, what is meant by my reference to a rural community sickness coined by me as “Silo Disorder.”  For starters click on the highlighted text link that defines a “silo” mostly connected with a farming community where grain is stored in tall cylinder structures close to rail transportation.  My work over the past 25 years in rural community building projects reveals that the greatest challenge and obstacle to overcome at the beginning of any project for the “greater good” is to get our neighbors and community leaders to talk to each other, build relationships, discover teamwork, and find common ground…  We often refer to this process as leadership, but I don’t believe defining leadership initially helps…it is too subjective.  Leadership means different things to folks and the dots are rarely connected unless there is a reference to something tangible and attention getting like “silo disorder.”  If we all stay in our tiny sheltered world of self interests only, we never see the light of day or the bigger picture of what we should be talking about to build community vitality where new opportunities are discovered…where innovation happens…where we begin to find new social investment capital never before realized by creating public private partnerships (PPP)… click for graphic images…”

Depoe Bay, Oregon…”World’s Smallest Harbor”  Click on highlighted text for more…

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Entrance to Depoe Bay Harbor…Click for larger view…

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Depoe Bay “Fleet of Flowers” Celebration… Click on highlighted text for more…

 

Following is my candidates statement found on page 21-11 of the Voters’ Pamphlet… Click highlighted text for Oregon General Election for November 4, 2014…

“I believe in the empowerment of community building and outreach strategies through collaborations and partnerships with local, state, and federal government, public private non-profits, private sector, and volunteers, all critical partners for community growth and vitality. Effective team building and collaborative commitments in Lincoln County have proven to be a successful enterprise, enhancing the quality of life for children and families, especially in education.

As a US Navy veteran from the Vietnam era and a post WWII military child, I am passionate about caring for veterans and families as a commitment to their sacrifice of service to protect our freedoms during all wars past and present. We have an eternal obligation and debt that can never be fully paid back to those who have served America in the military, as a first responder or in  public service.  We can never thank appreciate enough the service of the hundreds of volunteers in Lincoln County who work tirelessly and passionately to make a difference in our community.  The spirit of volunteerism is ever present right here in Depoe Bay.

As a City of Depoe Bay Councilor, I promise to be fair, objective, and compassionate about community service with the goal of achieving the very best quality of life and economic growth for all citizens for generations to come. It is my duty and heartfelt honor to serve!!!

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1…  Click highlighted text for my author page…

 

How do we listen to others with our hearts? Tips to help us improve our listening skills…

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Listening with your heart!

 

Listening With Your Heart…  Quote from this website article from Charter for Compassion, a non-profit enterprise…

Leadership begins with listening. Usually we are so excited about speaking and expressing ourselves so explicitly that we do not even listen to the responses. When someone responds, our minds are so  busy and pre-occupied with our own thoughts that the inertia of motion of our thoughts overrides our listening capabilities. Inevitably, we miss out on vital clues inside the mind of our teams and this hampers the basic output or consequences.”

Pocahontas – Listen With Your Heart…  Click on video clip to get in the mood…

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I work with very passionate friends and colleagues who are excited all the time when we get together…  What are we excited about?  Building the best non-profit K-12 after-school program and business model on the planet at Neighbors for Kids, Depoe Bay, Oregon!  And what is the biggest challenge for all of us during our meetings?  Well, the easy answer is “listening.”  All of us often start talking at once and coach each other at the same time to discipline our listening skills.  And after many years of excitement and passion, listening effectively is still a work in progress.  We are getting better all the time, and my bet is we will never be perfect.  But because we care about each other and the work we do with kids, we listen with our hearts.  As a team, we count on the meeting facilitator at that time to keep us all on track…  We believe “leadership begins with listening!”

Check out the listening tips provided in the link on this page above.  It is a good thing for all of us to be reminded often of the importance of improving listening skills, and do try to listen with empathy and from your heart…

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1…  Click on the highlighted text for my author page…