Parental PTSD symptoms can often translate to “child abuse” and collateral damage to our most precious resource…children…

by | Jun 27, 2013

Ginger Kadlace

Ginger Kadlace…”4UrKids”  About Ginger…from this website…

“Raising awareness of the world-wide epidemic of child abuse has become Ginger’s life mission. An impassioned child advocate, trainer, speaker and child forensic interviewer, Ginger is also an avid animal lover who is blessed with two loving pets: Lexi and Chance. Along with Ginger’s husband John, this small family resides in a quaint community Northwest of Indianapolis. Ginger enjoys traveling, skiing, hiking, brisk mornings, colorful sunsets and just hangin’ at home with “the Pack”.”

“Life is a blend of laughter and tears, a combination of rain and sunshine.”

                      – Norman Vincent Peale
“Each of us encounter happy and sad times in our lives, but few are as familiar with the impact of those extremes as children who are sexually or physically abused. Yes, it can be a difficult subject to discuss, but it is one that must be addressed to ensure the safety of little ones who entrust their very lives to the big people around them.”
Most mental health professionals and practitioners will say, “not near enough attention is given to the children of parents who suffer from the symptoms of PTSD.”  I most certainly agree!  After over two years of working with military families through my blog and book, kids are rarely mentioned or asked about in the context of treating PTSD among adult sufferers.  Why?  Kids become isolated and ignored in a toxic home culture.  I know this to be true as a former abused child in a post WWII home living with a father who suffered severely from extended combat duty while serving in the US Navy in the Pacific War…  I believe parents do not intentionally hurt their children under these circumstances.  It just happens, and happens fast, and goes on for years…  Parents then move on with their own challenges, and the kids suffer with fear in silence.  We can too easily conclude that our children are resilient.  Yes, they are…but the damage from secondary PTSD is real and carries forward.  In schools look for the kids who stay by themselves for the most part and are silent. 
I found Ginger’s website sent to me on Twitter from @trust4kids, Children’s Trust Fund of Mass.  I wrote my book after living with PTSD for all of my adult life.  I wanted to find out from my childhood experience in a toxic home if the lifelong symptoms of anxiety and depression had roots from this painful period of my life…  I sadly discovered through research and my own journey of healing that children can be abused for years in a home where parents suffer from effects of trauma from war and other traumatic events in life.  These children, like me and my siblings, don’t leave home as adults without taking the emotional baggage of abuse with them.   The secondary effects of PTSD are passed along from one generation to another unless the pattern is broken through awareness and treatment.  Ginger inspired me to do more through my work with kids,, and my blog and book to bring more awareness to the circumstances of child abuse…
Steve Sparks
 Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…

About the author

Steve Sparks is a retired information technology sales and marketing executive with over 35 years of industry experience, including a Bachelors’ in Management from St. Mary’s College. His creative outlet is as a non-fiction author, writing about his roots as a post-WWII US Navy military child growing up in the 1950s-1960s.
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