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http://coachingleaders.co.uk/how-to-do-things-better-the-new-behaviour-generator/ Quote from this website…
“NB. If you are already an NLP practitioner and you covered this on your practitioner training, compare this version of the process with the one you know. I’ve simplified it to its essentials.
1. Describe a behaviour you would like to be able to do, or how you would like to be able to do something better. Start from a belief and internal dialogue of ‘I can do this’.
2. Create a mental ‘movie’ in which you see yourself doing the new behaviour the way you want. Make sure the picture is big, bright and vivid. Add sound so that you see and hear yourself. Adjust the movie until you are satisfied with the new behaviour. (Extra tip: for most people, looking up and to your right as you do this will help. For a few people – usually if you’re left-handed – looking up and to your left will work better.)
3. Step into the ‘movie’ and check how this feels. Make any further adjustments you need to until you feel the way you want. (Extra tip: for most people, looking down towards your dominant hand will help you get in touch with what you are feeling).
4. Imagine seeing yourself use the new behaviour in 3 or more opportunities in the future to generalise the new ability out. Again, looking up will help you to visualise.”
Early on in my career in particular, I was forced to go with my gut because my education was limited along with experience. “Keeping it simple” at first sounded like the lazy way to go, and it was my secret and a way to cover up the lack of tools to work with. Although at times it seemed like risky business, it was the only way to survive for many years while pounding the pavement in Los Angeles during the early years in the telecommunications business. I goofed up often, but making mistakes was the key to a practice of “lessons learned.” I visualized myself succeeding by modeling other successful professionals in the IT business as well. I observed them carefully and wrote down some of the steps and practiced, and practiced, and tried out techniques in my sales approach and leadership style. This common sense approach really worked for me. Making mistakes was so punishing that revisiting frequent mistakes and making adjustments became an obsession. I got better and better at my game along the way… My behavior changed dramatically over time in very positive ways that helped me engage customers more effectively, work with team members who made a difference, and make sales…lots of sales… When everybody wins, you win!
This anecdote brings me to the above website quote and resource. The practice of visualizing success and really seeing yourself in highly positive ways, “kicking butt and taking names,” works. As an example, I finally started visualizing myself not being angry and acting out, including observing folks that were able to manage angry behavior effectively. I also learned through a self discovery process, the roots of my angry feelings, which made a huge difference. Click and read my “Self Discovery” model, http://livingwithptsd-sparkles.blogspot.com/2012/04/guest-contributor-posting-to-combat.html. It has been a lifelong journey, of course. Healing from traumatic experiences either as a child or in adult life takes time, and creates a more challenging road ahead. Be patient and never give up… The path to a better quality of life both personally and professionally is hard work…
Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story
