Following is an excerpt from, I Worry About the Kids, Chapter 1, Introduction…
“Although children are resilient and adapt to their immediate surroundings and their broader environment—good, bad, indifferent, and ugly as it might be—kids inhale the pain of loved ones, especially parents they look to for love, support, and security. Parents don’t always see or even think that toxic behaviors in the home, school, and neighborhood will have long-term implications on the healthy growth of their children. Parents who suffer from severe post trauma stress are fully engaged in their own world of emotional pain, a private agony that can strike at any moment by haunting triggers from the past. Outbursts of anger, panic attacks, and irrational behaviors represent a trauma-affected adult who is expressing grieving emotions from past traumatic events. When these scary events occur in the home, kids become frightened for their safety. Children are often silent and try to stay clear of threatening violent behaviors, but they never forget. They live and cope with whatever happens around them just like adults. I’m often asked why I worry so much about babies and young children when thinking and writing about post-traumatic stress and the toxic circumstances that surround a family when a parent suffers from it. I worry because even unborn babies can be damaged from post-trauma family dynamics. And I worry about the kids because the longer the delay in paying attention to them, the more permanent the damage. Where do I find these children? The terrible answer is I find them in every social strata, every economic level, in every neighborhood, everywhere. Children exhibiting the signs of post-traumatic stress often live in military families that include a parent who served in hard combat but came home fueled by anxiety, depression, and anger. They are children of 1st responders whose work places them in the midst of terrible violence and chaos, and they can’t help but bring some of their despair back home. They are homeless kids sleeping wherever they can lay their head for the night. Sometimes their parents are with them, sometimes not. They are the children of alcoholics and drug users. They are kids living among convicted criminals who need supervision of their own. They are the children of chronically depressed parents. They are undernourished kids living in poverty. They are kids with limited access to education—for whatever reason. They are children who have witnessed a murder, or a gun accident, or pulled the trigger themselves—you read about these stories in the newspapers way too often. They are children who found a parent dead of suicide. Or who was in the room when their mother was raped. They are foster children taken from parents who abused or neglected them, only to end up in another abusive situation. They are kids whose father or mother skipped out one day, never to return. They are children living with their grandparents because their own parents are dysfunctional or violent. They are children at the mercy of adults—stepfathers, pastors, relatives, neighbors—with sexually deviant personalities. Our society is experiencing an epidemic of children suffering from post-traumatic stress right this minute.”
Take some great songs and make them better at the Kids Zone BeatlesFest
We can work it out
To test your knowledge of the Beatles, pick up a print copy of the Oregon Coast TODAY and try and find all 24 song titles hidden within this story. Or, if that sounds like a hard day’s night, read it here, where we’ve put all the song titles in italics.
Story & photos by Patrick Alexander
Oregon Coast TODAY
Let it be known that the sounds of the Beatles will fill the auditorium of the Lincoln City Cultural Center on Saturday, Nov. 7, as Neighbors for Kids holds a fund-raising music festival honoring the Fab Four.
All you need is love in your heart, a spring in your step and $15 in your pocket to enjoy BeatlesFest, an evening packed with classic hits, great food and gourmet whisky tasting.
All proceeds go toward the group’s Kids Zone education enrichment program in Depoe Bay, where dedicated staff put in a hard day’s night eight days a week, providing supplemental art, music, math and science activities for kids of all income levels.
I could not be more proud of the work of Neighbors for Kids and our signature “Kids Zone” after-school program. My 6 years serving on the NFK Board has been a heartfelt and personally rewarding experience to watch us grow and make a huge difference for the children and families of greater Depoe Bay and Lincoln County Oregon.
For a non-profit business enterprise, we must become great at fund raising along with value added program development. Otherwise, we would be unable to sustain the operations expenses connected with providing excellent programming by retaining professional staff and the many volunteers who help us each and every day of the year. The diversified funding from grant makers, individual donations, and fund raising events, like the upcoming BeatlesFest, including the tireless work of board members, staff, and volunteers is the “magic sauce” of our continued success. We are kindred spirits with a common goal and passion to provide children in our community the very best in education, mentoring, and a healthy life style.
Thank you for your continued support! Join us on November 7th at the Lincoln City Cultural Center for a fun evening for a great cause, Kids Zone… Order your tickets to BeatlesFest from our website highlighted below, or just show up for the event.
Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, and Child Advocate…