The best place to start this chat room is to share my quote from a private chat room not to name. The rest of quotes are edited and anonymous.
This particular chat room is the best for us folks who have survived the loss of significant quality of life in their lives, just like all of us. We are survivors, no less!
We fought wars. We were abused or raped. We were beat up or bullied, put down. We watched, we heard the unspeakable horror of a profoundly dysfunctional home.
And, sadly, it doesn’t end there. Your kids grow up and behave in many ways messed up like you.
This intergenerational pandemic of traumatic injuries is like a disease without a cure. But, it’s in our power to cure it now.
We can end the cycle of pain ourselves by stopping pain in its tracks with us. We owe this to little ones who just arrived in your lives.
Most of all we owe this to ourselves. After all, it’s expected. We are the survivors, the warriors, who served. Now, we serve again because we are the healers.
Anonymous (except me)
“Through my therapy the past 2 years, I have calculated losing a minimum of 25% of my life 24/7 fight/flight crazy. This means at 75 I’m living in the moment for good. New life, don’t waste it, get therapy, trauma informed clinical help. Give yourself, especially your kids, a hug & a break from the old you.” Steve Sparks
The following quotes are edited…
“Feels like coming out of a fog, but if I get caught up in self pity thinking back over all the bad friends I’ve chosen… I won’t move forward. Getting stuck in feeling hurt, anger, resentment and shame. Giving myself some tough love.
And, as Richard Gordon says, “harness a very strong determination to be powerful and deal with the emotions. This helps me, though I skip step C:
“Yeah. I’ve been having this the last year and a half now. I’ve started trying a ton of new things. Playing guitar, bought a camera to learn filming, tried started a podcast.
Started gardening again, went back to school (though difficult as heck with trauma), started raising chickens, started a business, and much more.
Doing these have first, helped keep me busy and excited with life. Two, it’s helped me form a better sense of my own identity, which was taken from me through abuse.
Now, I found out several things; filming is boring, music is fun but I dont want it as a career, I’m to lazy for podcasts and don’t care. Lol There were more things I’ve tried and realized it wasn’t for me.
Through all this I have been finding myself again and what I love. Now that I have passion and desire again I have a direction.
And while many days I still feel robbed of my past, angry and hurt by people, it’s manageable because waking up for something I love. I have hope for a future and direction.
That I guess is what helped/helps me. Spend a lot of money I didn’t have going through a crisis to find myself.”
“Sometimes, I just have to keep going. At almost 43, this feeling happens on my best days, even while sleeping.”
Finally, leaving you with a summary conclusion of my own.
We can end the cycle of pain ourselves by stopping pain in its tracks with us. We owe this to little ones who just arrived in your lives.
Most of all we owe this to ourselves. After all, it’s expected. We are the survivors, the warriors, who served.
Now, we serve again because we are the healers, passing the torch. Pain ends with us, the healers, the survivors.
