How to Leverage Difficult Behaviors by Friends, Colleagues and Loved Ones…as told by, “Sam” The Old Dog of Wisdom…

“Sam” The Old Dog of Wisdom…

Most of us have had to deal with people who have more then some difficulty interacting with others. I know I have. So much so that my level of awareness is now firmly connected to my soul…

I know well, all too well, all 10 types of assholes who are mostly narcissistic, less than empathetic, non team players and awful leaders… Most of them never change either. Being an asshole seems to agree with their angry souls…

The good thing about difficult people is, if you know and understand them, you can actually help them. If you can’t help ’em fire them from your life and that of others in your charge. Leave them alone to heal their angry souls…

But difficult people sometimes don’t know they are difficult, mostly. Maybe sometimes if we’re lucky and patient.

Let’s see, the “tank” sort of jerks are the the worst of the lot. These difficult people are aggressive and never nice and kind sorts…

The “sniper” is a sneaky basturd. These types of folks can’t be trusted. You can count on them to plot stealthy frontal attacks when we aren’t looking… Keep your eye on these self serving fools…

The “know it all expert” really doesn’t know anything. These SOB’s pretend and lie about what they no nothing about. You can catch and release them when they finally tire of talking out of their noses…and other orfices of choice…

And, the “think they know it all expert” is even more obvious to you. These idiots don’t even plot or think. They just spew BS and stupid proclamations and machinations nonstop to keep you distracted.

The “grenade” mofo is the one who comes into the room hell bent on disrupting all things constructive and productive. Just throw these terrible assholes in the dumpster without hesitation…

Ohhh! I can’t stand the “yes” person. You know them well… Don’t you?

Worse yet, the “maybe” dude or dudette is the most frustrating to me. Nothing ever happens with these noncommittal incompetent idiots. Dispense with them on the spot…

Worse yet is the “nothing” fool. This is the shithead who just stands there unwilling to show life as most of us know it. Don’t even let them come back to the party…

My God! It gets even worse with the “no person” person. But Don’t even invite them to the Friday night dance with the gang…

Finally! The very worst of all the difficult people on the planet are the “whiners” complainers and blame gamers.

Take them by the ears and throw ’em to the curb without hesitation. These deplorables in your life will ruin your day, everyday of your life…

So, there you have it! Take heed, learn the traits, symptoms and behaviors of all these useless difficult people. Get them out of your life permanently. Get them out of your work place, especially…

Enough! I’m so tired of people who love to be difficult in my life. Aren’t you too?

“Sam”

Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate,.. and aspiring artisan…
Valentines Day with my bride…

“Ted and Tammy Ridley” Turtles of The Sea Rescued!

https://www.newsbreakapp.com/n/0YjtzUP8?

https://aquarium.org/sea-turtle-rehabilitation-and-tracking/

Olive Ridley Turtles…
https://www.fisheries.noaa.gov/species/olive-ridley-turtle

NewportOregon — Two Olive Ridley sea turtles have been found on Oregon beaches within the past month, indicating a change in ocean conditions and the potential for more strandings as winter approaches. An adult female Olive Ridley sea turtle was reported stranded on a beach in Lincoln City earlier this week.

“Ted and Tammy Ridley” were caught in a storm one day this last winter. The Oregon Coast winter storms make it tough for the Ridley’s to stay at sea sometimes…

A vessel struck Ridley’s clan injuring and killing many loved ones.. Injuries and deaths were caused by propellers way out at sea…

Winter storms and King Tides push the Ridley’s on to the beach sometimes late in the year. Olive Ridley Turtles prefer to stay at sea.

The Ridley’s come again when it’s time for the annual baby shower on the beach, maybe, in the spring… The little ones get ready for another race from the beaches to the sea…

The little Ridley’s are born on the beach just once each year… Once ready for the journey out to sea, the little’s run a sprint to the safety of the surf and sea…

The Ridley’s thrive at sea. Far, far, and away from the beaches from which they came…

We dream of Ted and Tammy Ridley’s return to the beaches of Oregon once again. For we love to see the little Ridley’s hatch and grow. Then, race out to sea to love one another once again…

Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate…and aspiring
Peace and love to “Ted and Tammy Ridley” at sea once again…

Discrimination and Hate Must End! We are all Americans…

“Asian Americans across the United States are reporting a significant increase in hate crimes, harassment and discrimination tied to the spread of the COVID-19 pandemic. More than a year after these attacks began, the pandemic has galvanized Asian Americans, many of whom have long felt invisible, to speak out about the hatred and racism being directed their way.”

https://www.voanews.com/usa/race-america/hate-crimes-targeting-asian-americans-spiked-150-major-us-cities

This is sickening, disgusting and unAmerican. My God! We are all Americans!

I have dear friends, colleagues and loved ones who are Asian. All of them, every last one of them, have kindness and love in their hearts and souls.

My father helped free oppressed Asians during WWII. My mother always shared beautiful memories of her Japanese friends and neighbors while she waited for my father to return from the Pacific War, including Pearl Harbor.

I know from my aging Asian friends that they are being abused with hate and discrimination. Most have lived in diverse communities for decades, raising their families, working, always contributing to America as veterans and in serving their communities.

What’s happening to America? Racism and hate of our brothers and sisters of any color, race, religion, gender or ethnic background must end! What is going on? This is not the America I know… Shit!!!

Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate…and aspiring artisan.
Peace and love…

What Do Your Kids Need to Know or Say About The “January 6th” Insurrection?

https://www.deseret.com/utah/2021/1/8/22217485/donald-trump-capitol-insurrection-infamy-democracy-congress-mitt-romney

First, do you talk with your kids or at them? Do you preach to them about all the stuff you think you know?

Do you actually listen to them or just lecture? If you can’t answer these simple questions, then look in the mirror.

https://theconversation.com/how-should-schools-teach-kids-about-what-happened-at-the-us-capitol-on-jan-6-we-asked-6-education-experts-152884

Sound simple? Well, it ain’t simple at all….

Here’s what I want to know sooner than later. At 74, who knows…

Do we still teach our kids in school political science, civics, war and peace, and lessons learned?

I remember my father talking about Germany mid 30s. I also remember reading and studying fascism at college 70s 80s…

All we knew about back then was the KKK. We knew also what they were up to after the Civil War. And that wasn’t America either…

Proud Boys sure sounds like the KKK model. Who wants that in America’s future?

I learned also about authoritarian governments, white supremist, non democratic countries around the globe. Who wants that kind of ugly stuff in America’s future?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Authoritarianism

We can go way back to midevil times and see the King/Queen thing to start with. Then, take a look at how much power the Catholic Church had back then…

https://www.britannica.com/topic/government/The-Middle-Ages

Is this what America wants to be? Wow! How stupid are we?

Yeah, America has big problems like forever. But, we don’t need a “Putin” to solve them.

We know how this works. It’s wrong and it doesn’t work, period. Never has, never will…

I wonder about our kids and in their schooling. Is political science and history studies no longer required? What about war and peace?

Does anybody study lessons learned from our past?

Do kids learn liberal arts at all?

Most importantly, how did America become ignorant and stupid? Why did 74 million people buy the “Big Lies?”

This ain’t political conversation. It’s about education, awareness, and truth. Will truth and trust return?

I want to know before I leave this world and so do most from my boomer generation. What happened? What’s wrong with America? How do we fix it? My rant… I earned it!

Escape for a moment…

“Bonnie n Clyde” The Crows of Little Whale Cove…

“Bonnie”
“Clyde”
Friend and neighbor, Jeff, tells the story of “Bonnie n Clyde” and “Ma n Pa Kettle” https://aquarium.org/animals/american-crow/

My friend, Jeff, a good neighbor, indeed! He looks for the Crows of Little Whale Cove when they return in the early spring…

“Bonnie and Clyde” arrive first. Both bring their family and friends to raise babies near the Cove…

“Ma and PA Kettle” arrive shortly thereafter with a loud screech and holler. Crows are never bashful about their enthusiasm for the Cove…

Bonnie n Clyde keep a watchful eye on Ma n Pa Kettle. The two families appear to have a dislike for one another at times…

A family fued has been brewing for awhile. The screech and hollers we hear all day are the Crows defending food and nests from other sneaky feathered ones, especially Ma n Pa Kettle…

Bonnie n Clyde, Ma n Pa Kettle live in harmony most of the time. Both families fly to the Cove each day for food and play…

Crow families stake out territorial boundaries, and build nests in the spring. My friend, Jeff, keeps a watchful eye on them too.

Bonnie n Clyde visit Jeff’s home each day. Sometimes Bonnie leaves a rock or shell as an offering. Crows are a very giving and loving sort…

Crows appreciate Jeff and know he loves them. They also know he always has a special treat to share. The Crows know Jeff has their backs too…

Jeff’s home is a pit stop for the Crows of the Cove. They stop for a visit and a snack while at play.

Flying back n forth to the Cove to hunt for food and play with Eagles, Hawks and Gulls is tiring by mid day. A soft peck on Jeff’s cheek is a reminder for treats they so enjoy…

I know no one who loves Crows more. Jeff is a Crow whisperer, I believe. He knows Bonnie n Clyde’s unique screech and holler is a sign of love and friendship…

Ma n Pa Kettle are somewhat bashful and quiet most of the time as they defer to Bonnie n Clyde. Both are happy to clean up the crumbs left behind by Bonnie n Clyde…

Crow families of Little Whale Cove, led by Bonnie n Clyde, followed by Ma n Pa Kettle, fly east to west each spring to the the Cove they love so…

They know Jeff is a friend and neighbor waiting to greet them each spring. Little Whale Cove loves all its feathered friends and loved ones who return home to thrive in the Cove each and every spring…

The Crows of the Cove fly west to east each year in October. We so look forward to their safe return home to the Cove they love the next spring…

The Crows of Little Whale Cove are family too. We treasure their lives the same as all of us, not just some of us…

Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate,..and aspiring artisan…
Escape for a moment…

“Levi” The Amazing and Kind Man in My Life…

“Levi” The Lover… photo by Jaccy Walker

Levi knows I feel like doo doo. He’s been taking care of me all day even when I can’t.

Levi is the amazing man in my life right now! He loves me unconditionally with kindness so much needed right now…

You know that face right there. “Levi” kept me going today.

Levi holds me accountable everyday all day. He hugs me too…

I love you Levi. I know he loves me too…

Levi gets me up in the morning when my mind says no. He hugs and kisses me when I need it the most…

Levi helps me take care of my stuff. He gets me started on the right foot each and everyday.

Levi even watches me do my eyes in the mirror. We laugh and smile together…

Levi looks into the happy mirror with me each day. We are friends forever, Levi and me…

Levi helps me cook breakfast each day. But not until I prepare breakfast for him first…

Levi brings his leash to me when it’s time for a walk in the Park. He loves to show me how much Mother Nature loves all of not just some of us.

My man, Levi, speaks to me and listens to me too. He loves me. I love Levi for he is the the amazing man in my life now…

Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate…and aspiring artisan.
Cape Perpetua Oregon https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cape_Perpetua

Draftwood Art Captures My Imagination…

I picked up a piece of strange looking driftwood on the beach at the Cove. It was black and completely soaked with sea water. I didn’t know what it was then…

The piece was heavy too. I almost left it on the beach. My curiosity wouldn’t let me. Beach combing does that to me…

http://www.drbeachcomb.com/Treasures.html

So, I took it home to dry out. I thought it would take many weeks to dry out. And it did. Seemed like it would never dry out…

The piece was very light after drying out. It was beautiful too. Zoom in to see for yourself. Imagine how the sea formed this perfectly shaped sculpture made from nature’s sea power over time…

Some weeks later, I started to see this beautiful Red Cedar piece of driftwood transform. All the nooks, cranies, corners and crevasses appeared. I gazed at it for several days imagining how old and where it came from…

I started cleaning and sanding all the edges revealing secrets from the sea. I could see the little creatures carving holes that took up residence over time. It must have traveled along the shore and out to sea over many decades…

The tides and winds showed the way until it landed on Little Whale Cove Beach after the storm. Imagine where it traveled and how many decades in the making…

When the piece was finished, I saw a Heron sitting on the top. This, then, became a sculpture to enjoy forever…

The treasures of the sea move my soul and bring a peace of mind never felt before. A sculpture made by God not man is a special gift from the sea…

Go find your special treasure from the sea. Find your secret cove along the coast. These moments of mindful mediation will bring love and peace to your heart and soul…

“Drifter” Mindfulness Meditation Creations by Steve Sparks
Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate…and aspiring artisan…
Cape Perpetua driftwood…wow!

What Would You Do with Bulbash Vodka?

https://www.wine-searcher.com/find/bulbash+osobaya+vodka+belarus#t2

I’m not selling Vodka! My drinking days long gone, Vodka doesn’t sound appealing to me. I remember when Vodka was a ‘bridge to no where’ in my life.

Back to beach combing!

I found a washed up bottle of Bulbash in the Cove yesterday. We love to head down to the Cove after a big winter storm.

You never know what treasures are out there unless you go find them…

Have a shooter of Bubash or Martini on my behalf. Happy Days to Vodka fans!

“Matt n Mattie” visit with Steve

Honolulu Bay c1964….

I surfed this a lot between 1963-65! I can still feel the freedom of being in the tube. I remember the power and explosion of spray on my backside… Then, the cannon shot out the tube on the other side. I knew in that moment my love for the sea. This is where God speaks to me…

Ala Moana on a freak out day!

I arrived in Honolulu in early December 1963. It felt like dream come true. My trusty friend and Greg Noll long board was tucked tightly under my arm…

The difference between me and other young surf dudes? I was just out of boot training and radio school, 17 and a half going on 18…

Headed to my 1st duty station, Comsubpac, Pearl Harbor, what do you think was on my mind?

No! It wasn’t starting a new career in the Navy. Well, maybe, I liked radios, crypto, and copying code from Morse Code…

YES! You guessed! It was surfing! And, surfing is what I did before joining the Navy. I was a surf duuude from South Bay…

I was ready, really ready, pumped up, stoked and freaked out. I was thinking about Makaha, Yokahma Bay, Pipeline, Ala Moana, and Honolulu Bay…

I wasn’t thinking about radios and Morse Code. But I did think about where my Greg Noll board would stay in the barracks on the base…

I hit the surf in Honolulu Bay to get my Waikiki fix and a tune up. The North Shore is what I came for. Greg Noll would make history in 1964 at Waimea Bay…

I did come to serve America too! Joining the US Navy was a dream come true…

The winter, summer and fall of 1964 showed me my soul for the first time. It was here on the beaches and in the waves of Honolulu Bay, Haluawi and Ala Moana that moved my soul.

Serving in the US Navy made me feel like a man for the first time back then. It was in this moment my soul was set free on the shores of Honolulu Bay…

Steve Sparks…Promoted to RM3 in 1964 while serving at Comsubflot5, US Navy Pearl Harbor…
Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health Advocate…and ol’ surf duude…

“Captain Pelican Pete” And, The Flying Aces of Little Whale Cove…

Captain Pelican Pete, The Flying Aces of Little Whale Cove…
“Captain Pelican Pete and The Flying Aces” https://myodfw.com/wildlife-viewing/species/pelicans-and-cormorants

“I want to be a Pelican in my next life. Pelicans fly as a true team with one goal motivated by one thing…love for each other.” Steve Sparks

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pelican

“A group of pelicans is called a pod. Actually, there are many other names for pelican groupings — a pouch, a scoop, a squadron or if they are fishing as a group, a fleet. … At first, squadron was a good name as the magnificent…White Pelicans fly low in formation on a stealth mission.”

Oregon has two species of pelicans, American white and the Brown pelican, and three species of cormorants. All are fish-eating water birds with four toes joined by webbing. Depending on the species, pelicans and cormorants inhabit the Oregon coast, rivers or interior waterbodies.”

While looking down closer to the sea below the cliffs, I can see Captain Pelican Pete. He leads his squadron of flying aces on another secret mission along the shore near Little Whale Cove…

I can’t see Captain Pelican most times as they fly by in stealthy form. He leads his squadron of Flying Aces very fast, and so very close to the surface of the sea…

It’s too easy to miss Captain Pelican Pete unless I move quickly to the edge of the cliff. Sometimes I get to the edge of the cliff just in time to see the beauty and grace of his squadron of Flying Aces in perfect formation…

Captain Pelican Pete’s squadron flys near the water surface close to shore. He and the right and left flank commanders spot a school of herring just below the surface.

Captain Pelican Pete hits the water first followed by his stealthy Flying Aces. The herring are surrounded for a gourmet buffet like no other before…

With pouches full with herring, Captain Pelican Pete gives the order to return home. The flight home would be a little slower with pouches full…

Captain Pelican Pete’s squadron of Flying Aces takes off in perfect formation for the return flight home. They fly up high and a little slower while making a perfectly orchestrated approach to Little Whale Cove…

Captain Pelican Pete glides in without hardly a splash. He is followed by 12 of his Flying Aces as they glide in one by one into the Cove below…

I love to watch Captain Pelican Pete and his squadron of Aces splash and play in the fresh water pond In the Cove. It is here when love of brothers and sisters shines through…

I want to be a Pelican in my next life. These beautiful sea birds fly as a true team and family. It is this one goal motivated by one thing…love for each other as brothers and sisters in arms…

In that moment, then, is when my soul speaks to me the most. It is this love I see from my feathered friends that moves my heart and soul so deeply…

Dreams to fly in Captain Pelican Pete’s Flying Aces of Little Whale Cove will someday come true. It is this faith in God that brings hope and peace to my heart and soul…

Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Mental Health
https://www.amazon.com/Adventures-Billie-Pillie-Christopher-Evans/dp/1946540919

“I highly recommend this book for all who seek the beauty of the sea and precious wildlife we love…” Steve Sparks

Description

The Adventures of Billie and Pillie tells the story of two young pelicans living along the Oregon coast with their parents.

While Billie does everything right and follows the family rules, his brother Pillie is very mischievous and is always getting in trouble. In fact, he never seems to learn right from wrong.

From the day these two are hatched, the pelican brothers take on one adventure after another, most of which end up with Pillie breaking all the pelican rules. Even the Oregon Coast Guard becomes involved in a sea-to-air rescue involving, you guessed it, Pillie.

About the Author and Illustrator: An Oregon native, Christopher J. Evans taught in Roseburg, Oregon, for thirteen years before teaching overseas for the next twenty-five years. A retired biology/chemistry teacher, he currently lives in a small town on the Oregon coast, with his house a five-minute walk to the beach. This is his first book about Billie and Pillie; however, his children and grandchildren grew up listening to these pelican stories. He volunteers at the Oregon Coast Aquarium, and also enjoys hiking with his dogs