The Life-Long Process of “Trauma Integration” My next book, My Journey of Healing Part 2…How to help traumatized children…


Trauma & Sensory Integration: The Egg and the Chicken…    by  

“Few adults understand how trauma silently handicaps some children in day-to-day functioning that appears to have nothing to do with trauma. As an adult who struggled in childhood with the aftermath of trauma, I want to help others understand what might be going on with traumatized children and what you should know about it.

The consequences of trauma are many, for both adults and children. Recent articles, blogs and online discussions demonstrate rapidly growing awareness of this fact. This week, for example, a recent study by Elsey et al., (2015) reported an association between trauma exposure in early childhood and incidence of emotional disturbances and risky behavior later in life.”


Chapter 4 ,Teaching Kids Empathy & Compassion, and Chapter 5, How Does Moral Injury Damage Human Spirituality and the Soul, of my new book digs deeply into the subject of children who suffer from post traumatic stress (PTS).  How do you recognize the symptoms in kids?  How can you, as a parent or mentor, help traumatized children process the symptoms effectively and help them heal from moral injury?  It is critically important to focus on children as early as possible…breaking the pattern of silence and confusion connected with experiencing traumatic events in early life.  Younger children often do not remember a traumatic experience, but the pain is still hidden inside and will often resurface later in life with sometimes tragic consequences.  The life-long effects of trauma in children can be mitigated when parents, loved ones, teachers, and mentors become highly aware and proactive in providing loving and focused treatments.  It is not what is wrong with your child, it is what happened to them!

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 1… and soon to be released, My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 2…

Saving your children, family and loved ones from inter-generational Post Traumatic Stress (PTS)…

Excerpt from Chapter 2, My Journey of Healing, Part 2…

My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 2…for children and families who live and cope with Post Traumatic Stress (PTS)…


Each of the 8 chapters in my new book, to be released soon, are page turners for all who want to learn more and make a difference for others who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress (PTS).

Chapter 2…Local Community, Partnerships, and Responsibility

Are we doing better caring for America’s veterans who return home to life after war? Are more government studies a solution? Are we engaging local communities effectively? This next chapter will help show the way forward right at home in the communities where veterans return to resume their lives in life after war…

“DOD and the Veterans Affairs Department are “collaborating to shape policies and programs with a long term impact on returning warriors, during military service and after transition to civilian life,” he added. He called for increased screening and referral of service members believed to be experiencing PTSD, and for improved access to quality care for those being treated.”

“Hammer told the task force members his organization benefits efforts throughout the Defense Department to help those suffering from PTSD and TBI. “We believe that by serving as the principal integrator and authority on psychological health and traumatic brain injury knowledge and standards for DOD,” he said, “we are uniquely positioned to accelerate improvement and care.”

We need much more at the local community level to support veterans returning home from deployment…

In my view, it is a continuous challenge for the Department of Defense (DOD) and Veterans Affairs Department to strengthen the delivery of improved policies and programs for warriors returning home to life after war.  Although we have appropriate policies and programs available and consistently updated, it is in the execution and delivery where we fail.  I believe local communities collaborating with the private and public sectors as the ultimate solution.   We need a public private partnership business model that works effectively in the local communities across America.  Once our veterans our “processed” following leaving the service or returning home for a break from deployment, the “soul feeding” care needed on an on-going basis at the local level is lost in the shuffle.  I still have not seen anything from the top that reaches out to local communities in a way that transfers the responsibility of caring for our warriors back to the communities that sent them into war and combat in the first place…

A “Call to Action” in local communities is critical! Public and private non-profit partnerships are critical to delivering solutions.

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 1…  Click on the highlighted text for my author page…

“Rediscovering and Preserving your Family’s War Legacy.” Excerpt from Chapter 7 of my soon-to-be-released book…


Chapter 7…Rediscovering and Preserving your Family’s War Legacy…excerpt…

“Lost WWII Heroes Discovered in South Pacific…a profoundly healing legacy experience for loved ones… This chapter explores how you can revisit and preserve your proud family legacy from past wars. So much of our war legacy is hidden in the boxes of attics and basements.  We post WWII kids were taught to not ask questions or talk about it. Our parents, especially our fathers and mothers who served America during 20th Century wars, felt it was too painful to discuss. We worked hard as a post WWII society to “go home and forget about it!” Now we know that healing from the horrors and emotional pain of war requires conversation and revisiting the duty, sacrifice and service of veterans of all wars who protected the freedoms we all enjoy. We must preserve, honor and remember to help us all learn and heal from the trauma of war.”

Heroes of Palau…

Palau…Searching for Heroes…  Click on this powerful video clip…worth all 13 minutes!

Published on Nov 7, 2014

“Passion meets technology in the search for downed aircraft in the South Pacific. The BentProp Project is a group of volunteers who search for and help repatriate missing World War II Airmen. Their searches were long and arduous until they enlisted the scientific know-how of Scripps Institution of Oceanography-UCSD and The University of Delaware. What they find is truly inspiring.”

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 1…  Click highlighted text for my author page…

“The Wrath of Stigma!” is the first chapter of my new book, My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 2.

Saving your children, family and loved ones from inter-generational Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS)

Following is an excerpt from my new book to be released soon…

“Stigma is a self-fulfilling prophecy,” they say…  “After all the research and writing on the subject of PTS/PTSD, including this blog with close to 800 postings offering tons of information about my own experience, references and resources with the goal to help others, the human condition of STIGMA leaves me stone cold and in a quandary.  It is clear that we should all seek treatment immediately following a moral injury and living with the awful symptoms of depression and anxiety, including panic attacks.  But it would be dishonest for me to suggest to anyone who fears losing opportunities and dreams of career success, especially loving relationships and spiritual growth in life, to ever admit a mental health challenge.

My latest book is dedicated to the 70th Anniversary of the End of WWII.

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1.  Click on highlighted text for my author page…

Neighbors for Kids, “Kids Zone Classic Charity Golf” July 18th, Chinook Winds Golf Resort, Lincoln City, Oregon

Chinook Winds Golf Resort, Lincoln City, Oregon


Class of 2000 Linebacker >>> 6-3, 241 (Boise Junior College, Oregon) 1964-1974 San Francisco 49ers

David Wilcox. . .Third round draft pick, 1964. . .Also drafted by Houston (AFL). . .Nicknamed “The Intimidator” for aggressive style of play. . . Considered by many to be finest outside linebacker of his era. . .Particularly effective at keeping tight ends from getting off line. . .Prided himself on not allowing opponents to block him. . .All-NFL five times, second-team All-NFL three other times. . . Named All-NFC three times. . .Elected to seven Pro Bowls. . . Born September 29, 1942, in Ontario, Oregon.

Kids Zone Classic with Dave Wilcox, NFL Hall of Fame, San Francisco 49rs!  Click on this link to register!

The Neighbors for Kids Board of Directors is proud and honored to present the “Kids Zone Classic” in our 6th year as one of the most recognizable and popular charity golf tournaments on the Central Oregon Coast.  I remember as a new NFK Board Member 6 years ago when we started with dreams of building a charity golf event that would become a classic in the years to come.  We are grateful for the support of Chinook Winds Casino & Golf Resort, and PR manager, Heather Hatton, who is also the Taft HS golf coach.  Heather helped jump start the idea of promoting the best of Lincoln County’s HS golfers by donating green fees for selected students from each of the Lincoln County School District HS golf teams.  The NFK Board really felt that we should make our annual charity golf event about the K-12 kids we serve by recognizing young and aspiring golfers from our local community.  We then asked new NFK Board Director, Liz Martin, with a long history of golf experience from Agate Beach Golf Course in Newport to help us achieve lofty goals to become the very best charity golf event on the Central Oregon Coast.  Liz has done a truly amazing job chairing the event each year.

Since 1999 the success of Neighbors for Kids and signature after-school program “Kids Zone” has been a labor of love by the community as a whole.  With the passion and commitment from our staff, volunteers, and the NFK Board of Directors, we can now call ourselves the “Kids Zone Golf Classic!”  We are especially thankful to Chinook Winds Casino & Golf Resort and our many sponsors who have help make this event NFK’s largest fund raiser of the year.  The proceeds all contribute to a continued effort to offer the finest after-school, and summer camp education and enrichment programs on the Central Oregon Coast.  NFK is also a partner of the LCSD 21st Century Community Learning Center.

I can’t wait to get out on the course on July 18th in a foursome with my neighbors from the community of LIttle Whale Cove in Depoe Bay.  We all look forward to the fun and camaraderie of our entire community sharing in this amazing annual event to benefit “Kids Zone” in Depoe Bay, Oregon.

Steve Sparks, Vice Chair, Neighbors for Kids, Depoe Bay, Oregon