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Inspire the World! Quote from this website article by Jessica Lynn Solsona… click the link and read more…
WHY THIS MEANS SO MUCH TO ME!
To get to know why I want change, please read a little about me!
“I was molested every night as a child from the age 3 till 8 years old by my step dad. My mother knew and chose to do nothing. She would allow me to stay with him and please him by giving him what he wanted. She would tell me she hated me because in her mind he paid more attention to me then her. My mother ripped up and took away everything I liked. I had to learn to not have feelings in front of her so she would not take my favorite thing’s or person away. She abused me so bad that I wished I was dead. I learned how to please her and do nice things for her to have a better day with no abuse.”
In my own military childhood experience in a highly toxic home during the 50’s and early 60’s, I could never understand why Mother would allow Dad to beat us and emotionally abuse his family right in front of all of us! I hated my Dad for the degrading and abusive treatment of all of us. I hated Mother too for not protecting us under some really scary circumstances at times. Why didn’t she just call “911” and have Dad taken away? Why didn’t she pick up a baseball bat and hit him on the head, while watching the huge bully punch us kids in the head in a fit of rage? None of this torture and pain left the home in discussions or complaints to anyone. It was a big secret. We lied to our friends, teachers, and coaches. We would not dare bring it up because we didn’t believe anyone would understand or care. We also knew that if word got back that we were treated this way, there would be denial by our parents. And sooner or later more beatings and punishment would come our way.
Mother was scared too! I know now after all these years that my parents were both scared. Dad was in constant emotional pain from serving in extended combat during WWII as a US Navy veteran, and deployment during the Korean War. None of us, even Mother and Dad, understood moral injury and PTSD during the “too terrible to remember 50’s.” Children inhale the pain of parents under these circumstances and become affected with secondary PTSD and worse yet Complex PTSD. (Click link to learn more…)
Mother was no different than thousands of other military spouses & moms of that period. They were all post war caregivers to warriors learning to cope and live with PTSD on the fly. There was a “suck it up” mentality because we had no choice in the matter. Mental health science and treatment was virtually non-existent at the time. It was easier just to sweep it all under the rug, if we could. But we know now that all the PTSD baggage moved forward into adult life with our generation and the next…
And so we try to heal in the 21st Century and break the cycle of pain forever… But it takes heroes like Jessica Lynn Solsona and many others to break the silence to help educate the world on the painful subject of child abuse and life after trauma. I am encouraged each day by my own journey of healing, and inspired more by learning about so many others who make a difference in the quest to advance the cause of awareness. I am moved by Jessica’s work and passion to help others today, and want the rest of the world to know about her story. Thank you Jessica for helping all of us heal! You are a hero!