Monthly Archives: June 2013

“South Depoe Bay Creek Nature Trail…” A Well kept secret?

 
City of Depoe Bay, Oregon…  Click on this website…
 

Depoe Bay History

 
 

Depoe Bay ocean viewfrom website…
“Before the arrival of early homesteaders, coastal Indian tribes speaking nearly 20 different languages including Chinook, Salishan, Suislaw, and Alsea lived in the general area. The natural harbor in Depoe Bay was used for seal hunting and fishing. There were many streams in the area, which provided an abundance of fish. The rugged coastline in area of current-day Depoe Bay had beautiful features such as Arch Rock, the spouting horns, sea cliffs and terraces, many caves, and a subterranean fresh water lake, but was lacking in easy access to sandy beaches.”

 
 
 
South Depoe Bay Creek
 
 
 
Sweet Judy & Grand dog Skai while hiking the “South Depoe Bay Creek Trail…”
 
 
There are more secrets in Depoe Bay, Oregon than we already knew!  Judy and I had a beautiful healing experience today while taking grand dog Skai for a hike on the “Creek Trail” at the far end of Depoe Bay City Park…  Sounds hard to get there to me!  But all you have to do is walk to the trail entrance at the east end of the City Park.  The trail follows the creek into an old cedar rain forest where the great salmon used to roam.  It is like walking into an enchanted forest…no kidding…  Judy couldn’t stop talking about it today.  Skai is still smiling while passed out in his bed.  And now,  I have to write and tell about it to all of our friends and family…  I hope you are as excited about all this as much as we are!
 
 
Steve Sparks
Author
 
 
 
 

Meet Scrubs, Thomas Skinner’s Service Dog…a gift of healing, love, and friendship…

Meet Scrubs – Scrubs is my PTSD Service Dog.
“I am honored to introduce to you my service dog Scrubs. She is a tri-colored border collie and she is 4 years old. She started out her life on a cattle ranch in the foothills of Coalinga, California. This part of California has nothing but cattle and agriculture, so border collies are pretty common.”

Thomas Skinner…Beautiful and loving moment…

Your service dog…  Quoting from this website…

“My wife decided PTSD and all of its symptoms was more than she was willing or able to deal with and she and the two children are living three hundred miles away and staying with her family. I was discharged a wounded warrior. Not all wounds are visible and mine took twenty two years to finally be diagnosed. I don’t want a purple heart. I want my life and my children back.”

As published June 20, 2011 on American Veterans Center Website:
http://www.americanveteranscenter.org/2011/06/thomas-p-skinner-u-s-army/
Thomas Skinner
US Army Veteran living with PTSD
Email
http://www.UnderstandingPTSD.org

“My mission is to use my experiences to help other veterans understand and recognize the signs, symptoms and effects of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, and then to help them find the resources they need to cope with its effects and live a happy productive life.”

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Scrubs is an example of your own pet giving you unconditional love…  When Scrubs looks at you as in the photo above, you know what she is thinking, “what can I do next to make Thomas happy?”  My daughter, Sarah, has a therapy dog named, Skai, who has done miracles for her well-being too.  I didn’t think a whole lot about the soul of my own animal kingdom friends over the years until they left us.  Now, in my own journey of healing, my heart and soul reaches out each day to “man’s best friend.” 

Thomas uses the slogan “Caring is Sharing” in his blog.  The story of Thomas and Scrubs is very special.  I plan to stay in touch with Thomas so that we have an opportunity to meet Scrubs when we return to San Diego later this fall.  I want to give a heartfelt thanks to both Thomas Skinner and Scrubs for “caring and sharing!”  Your story is a gift of forgiveness and healing that touches my own heart…  I know the story of Scrubs will deeply touch the hearts of  many others who follow this blog…

Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…

Neighbors for Kids (NFK) collaborates…The “Catch Kids Club…” Teaching healthy eating habits and increasing physical activity for kids…

The Kids Zone’s My Health, My Life Project consists of three elements; Health and Nutrition Classes, Fitness and Sports and the Community Garden. The project offers a combination of classroom-style learning, hands-on projects, cooking classes, variety of sports, a running club and an organic community garden. Classes and activities are taught by NFK staff, partner organizations (OSU Extension Services) and community volunteers. Another primary partner and funding source towards the project is Samaritan Health Services. Samaritan H.S. has provided funding each year from the hospital’s “Social Accountability Fund”, therefore investing in the healthy development of children in Lincoln County, Oregon.

Neighbors for Kids collaborates with Samaritan Health Services…

I am so proud of the work we do at Neighbors for Kids in Lincoln County, Oregon…  One of our highest priorities is to promote healthy children through providing an extra edge during after-school hours.   The “My Health, My Life Project,” is one of the programs at the top of our list.  NFK  Executive Director, Toby Winn, is the Lincoln County Coordinator for the “Catch Kids Club” a coordinated approach to prevent childhood obesity.  Toby has been working closely with Samaritan Health Services the past two years to launch this collaborative effort in our community.  When our students participate after-school they get a healthy mix of academics, recreation, and nutrition each and every day…  To learn more, please read the Samaritan Health Services Community Health Impact 2013 Report by clicking on the below link…

Preventing Childhood Obesity in Lincoln County, Oregon…

Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…

Vice Chair
Neighbors for Kids

Parental PTSD symptoms can often translate to “child abuse” and collateral damage to our most precious resource…children…

Ginger Kadlace

Ginger Kadlace…”4UrKids”  About Ginger…from this website…

“Raising awareness of the world-wide epidemic of child abuse has become Ginger’s life mission. An impassioned child advocate, trainer, speaker and child forensic interviewer, Ginger is also an avid animal lover who is blessed with two loving pets: Lexi and Chance. Along with Ginger’s husband John, this small family resides in a quaint community Northwest of Indianapolis. Ginger enjoys traveling, skiing, hiking, brisk mornings, colorful sunsets and just hangin’ at home with “the Pack”.”

“Life is a blend of laughter and tears, a combination of rain and sunshine.”

                      – Norman Vincent Peale
“Each of us encounter happy and sad times in our lives, but few are as familiar with the impact of those extremes as children who are sexually or physically abused. Yes, it can be a difficult subject to discuss, but it is one that must be addressed to ensure the safety of little ones who entrust their very lives to the big people around them.”
 
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Most mental health professionals and practitioners will say, “not near enough attention is given to the children of parents who suffer from the symptoms of PTSD.”  I most certainly agree!  After over two years of working with military families through my blog and book, kids are rarely mentioned or asked about in the context of treating PTSD among adult sufferers.  Why?  Kids become isolated and ignored in a toxic home culture.  I know this to be true as a former abused child in a post WWII home living with a father who suffered severely from extended combat duty while serving in the US Navy in the Pacific War…  I believe parents do not intentionally hurt their children under these circumstances.  It just happens, and happens fast, and goes on for years…  Parents then move on with their own challenges, and the kids suffer with fear in silence.  We can too easily conclude that our children are resilient.  Yes, they are…but the damage from secondary PTSD is real and carries forward.  In schools look for the kids who stay by themselves for the most part and are silent. 
 
I found Ginger’s website sent to me on Twitter from https://twitter.com/trust4kids @trust4kids, Children’s Trust Fund of Mass. https://www.facebook.com/ChildrensTrustFundofMA.  I wrote my book after living with PTSD for all of my adult life.  I wanted to find out from my childhood experience in a toxic home if the lifelong symptoms of anxiety and depression had roots from this painful period of my life…  I sadly discovered through research and my own journey of healing that children can be abused for years in a home where parents suffer from effects of trauma from war and other traumatic events in life.  These children, like me and my siblings, don’t leave home as adults without taking the emotional baggage of abuse with them.   The secondary effects of PTSD are passed along from one generation to another unless the pattern is broken through awareness and treatment.  Ginger inspired me to do more through my work with kids, www.neighborsforkids.org, and my blog and book to bring more awareness to the circumstances of child abuse…
 
Steve Sparks
Author
 Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…
 
 

Painful but healing memories of childhood in a post WWII home… We did not even understand the anger and violence as kids…but carried the baggage forward…

Photo: MGN Online           

PTSD affects the children of combat veterans… Learn more about how secondary PTSD can affect your family… Click on this highly informative video news clip…  Quoting from the story on this website…

“She is one of an unknown number of people (post WWII children of parents with PTSD) who’ve developed PTSD symptoms and triggers similar to their parents’….”

“I don’t think we measure that,” explained Dr. Deirdre Golden, the director of behavioral health at North Point Health and Wellness Center in Minneapolis. “In fact, there’s not a lot of measurement that goes on studying PTSD in children, period.”

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It used to be crushing for me to revisit my childhood living in a home with a parent who suffered severely from extended combat duty during WWII and Korean War.  This particular story, especially the video clip, http://www.kstc45.com/article/stories/s3075698.shtml, is still painful to hear.  But it is far better for me and countless others who suffer from secondary PTSD, to have revisited the pain, and started the journey of healing.  Denial does not work!  The baggage carries forward and hangs on like bad genes.  Awareness is the first step to healing and building a healthy, happy, and productive life…  It is never too late!

Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…

When recovering from trauma, loving partners, friends, and family are a must… Recovery is a team effort!


Robert D. Stolorow, Ph.D., Ph.D.
 
Robert D. Stolorow, Ph.D., Ph.D. is a Founding Faculty Member at the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, Los Angeles, and at the Institute for the Psychoanalytic Study of Subjectivity, New York City. He is the author of World, Affectivity, Trauma: Heidegger and Post-Cartesian Psychoanalysis (Routledge, 2011) and Trauma and Human Existence: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections (Routledge, 2007) and coauthor of eight other books. He received the Distinguished Scientific Award from the Division of Psychoanalysis of the American Psychological Association in 1995, the Haskell Norman Prize for Excellence in Psychoanalysis from the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis in 2011, and the Hans W. Loewald Memorial Award from the International Forum for Psychoanalytic Education in 2012.

“I’ll be with you when the deal goes down!”  Quoting from this website…

“We must not turn away from another’s experience of trauma by offering false reassurances about time healing all wounds or empty platitudes about letting go and moving on. We offer such reassurances and platitudes when another’s traumatized state confronts us with our own finitude and existential vulnerability, and so we turn evasively away…”

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I have never succeeded at anything in my life completely on my own and by myself.  Sure, I felt alone during my childhood living in a post WWII family culture that was highly abusive and toxic most of the time.  But there were plenty of experiences outside of home to show me that it takes a team to survive in the world.  It takes friendship, love, trust, and empathy for others to live a healthy, happy, and productive life.  I feel blessed to have picked up on this human connectedness and outreach idea early in my life, because it saved my life.  I could have easily withdrawn and become isolated and afraid.  I am not sure exactly what triggered my belief in others.  I can share that early on there were opportunities to feel the power of teamwork, mentorship and leadership from others in school, work and in sports.  I now know from my own experience and research that we innately feel this way, but run the risk of  walking away from others and our own human need for a spiritual connection.  I had to force myself to take a risk to trust others and go with my gut at a very young age.  There was little or no trust at home.  I had to just trust that the outside world was different than my scary and lonely family culture.  Many mistakes were made in my own self discovery along the way.  I just kept plugging away and believing in the human spirit.  I feel so blessed and lucky at this time in my life to have taken the high road by trusting and loving others…  Don’t give up on yourself ever!  Keep trying, and keep moving forward in believing in yourself and  embrace others who care about you in your life…

Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story click to order my book or download Kindle version…

Rare opportunity to engage in PTSD research with your own questions and experience…

Michele Rosenthal

Michele Rosenthal…”Heal My PTSD…”  click on this website and learn more…ask your own questions…
 

  • I have been collaborating and supporting the work of Michele Rosenthal. Michele focuses on the broader challenges of trauma treatment and recovery. The breadth and depth of her work goes well beyond trauma connected with military families and combat stress. I believe the more we learn about “life after trauma” in a broader context and engage in conversation, we have a much better chance to find a path to healing that fits. Each person is different, and the circumstances of trauma are different. I personally struggle with many questions, and the list is getting larger through my own work www.livingwithptsd-sparkles.blogspot.com. If those who follow my work, friends and family included, are inclined to participate, please click on the site below. You can even leave a private messages on FB for Michele. Awareness has always been the focus of my work as the first step toward healing. Please take advantage of this rare opportunity. Learn more about the work of Michele Rosenthal….

    I’m partnering with a trauma treatment center to help raise awareness about PTSD. This gives me access to over 30 trauma professionals trained in various aspects of treatment. What questions would you like to hear them answer?
Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…

This is Sesame Street’s online community for sharing military family resources…. Don’t miss taking advantage of this new resource!

Sesame Street’s online community for sharing military family resources.

For the military family from Sesame Street…

Family & Friends Networking
 
Photos
 
Write and Connect
 
And more…For the military family from Sesame Street… click on this site…
 
This is wonderful and cool!  As military families this is the website resource we have been waiting for!  It is kids friendly and fun for the entire family!  Go to it…download right now…and check it out!
 
Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…
 
 
 

“When hunger and war will pass away…” Jackie Evancho…a beautiful young lady with a big voice…so healing and captivating to listen…

Jackie Evancho

Jackie Evancho…”To Believe…”  click on this beautiful music video and song…

“Jacqueline MarieJackieEvancho (/ˈvŋk/ ee-VAYNG-koh; born April 9, 2000) is an American classical crossover singer who gained wide recognition at an early age and, since 2009, has issued five albums, including a platinum and gold album and three Billboard 200 top 10 debuts.[1][2]
Between 2008 and 2010, Evancho entered several talent competitions; made singing appearances, mostly in Pennsylvania (including at a Pittsburgh Pirates baseball game); issued an independent album, Prelude to a Dream; and attracted interest on YouTube. Evancho impressed composers Tim Janis and David Foster, each of whom included her in his concerts beginning in 2009. Later in 2010, at the age of ten, she gained wider popularity with her performances in the fifth season of the America’s Got Talent competition, finishing in second place.”

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This is the voice!  I love to share music that is healing and provides a special moment of mindfulness…  Jackie Evancho is a rare talent with a captivating voice.  Please enjoy her music, a very special voice indeed…

Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order book or download Kindle version…

Young Humpback Whale is freed in the Sea of Cortez and shows appreciation… Once in a lifetime experience shared on video…

Heroes free young Humpback Whale…click on video clip below…

Endangered young Humpback Whale is freed from a net and rejoices!  Quote from this YouTube site…

Published on Apr 30, 2012

we need to do more https://www.commondreams.org/headline…
Humpback Whale Shows Amazing Appreciation After Being Saved
Caught in a huge amount of nets, this humpback whale was completely trapped. But these people on their boat took matters into their own hands and freed it, saving its life. The best part is the end when he shows amazing appreciation by taking them for a ride and jumping around. more video’s at http://www.bed-bugs-free.com/nicestuf…

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Watching this video clip last night was a true pleasure and experience of “mindfulness.”  Observing the behaviors of animals anytime is so healing to me.  Making a difference for others includes the animal kingdom in so many ways.  A once in a lifetime display of this magnificent animal’s appreciation for several hours is to be viewed over and over again!

We watch whales all the time here on the Oregon Coast.  Gray Whales migrate the Pacific Ocean coastline from the tip of Baja California to Alaska.  Whales provide we human partners and spectators with an appreciation of how important these mammals are to our ecosystem.  It is with awe we watch each time a whale breaches to say hello.  If food is close to shore we sometimes get to see them within a few yards of the Basalt cliff area near Little Whale Cove next to Depoe Bay, Oregon.  We watch and observe with so much pride and appreciation for as long as possible…

It is a special treat to hear and see the joy of the rescuers in this case.  There is no better feeling on earth and in our life experience than to save a life.  This was a rare time we mere humans had a chance to show our gratitude to the Humpback Whale.

Steve Sparks
Author
Reconciliation: A Son’s Story  click to order my book or download Kindle version…